First day of Preschool!

Up until her first day of preschool, my baby girl had never been watched by anyone outside of the family for an extended amount of time! The longest I had been away from her was when I was in the hospital with her younger sister (and Daddy was frequently going back home to spend time with her and Grampy)… and let’s face it, I was in and out of the hospital and actually shopping in less than 48 hours after I had given birth! So really, my little Sweetie-Belle’s first day of preschool was a huge shock to us all!
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We had discussed preschool with her prior to her first day, but I don’t really think she understood exactly what it was going to be like. Honestly, I had no idea what it was going to be like! We got her dressed, packed a bag, brought her lots of changes of clothes since she was still having some potty accidents at the time and brought her in.

Immediately I felt so different! Thankfully, so so thankfully, as soon as we got there, Stelle ran directly into the preschool room and lit right up! She was finally in a room filled with children her own age who she would get to interact with. The greeting we got upon arrival was outstanding. I was so blessed to have found such a great preschool for my daughter. It really helped to put my mind at ease. The only disappointing thing? She ran into the room so quickly, I never got to give her a hug and a kiss goodbye :(. I beat myself up over that for most of the morning, but eventually I told myself I would snuggle with her as soon as she got home to make up for it!

It was SUCH a slow day! I ended up coming home and cleaning, just to try and keep my mind busy on other things. I watched Cake Boss on Netflix afterwards until 10:30, when her sister finally woke up. I had no idea she would sleep in so long on days when her sister wasn’t around. So the rest of my day was filled with a ton of things that I just never really felt like I had had time to get done when I had both children home with me alone during the day. I took the little one grocery shopping, I really spent time just focused on her… hey, it was a new experience for her too! She’s always had a big sister around and I believe that she appreciates the time off to just be alone with her parent(s). The only thing I didn’t have time for was going for a walk with my little one in the stroller.

I would say that after the first few hours or so, the day seemed to go by a little faster… until Amara went for her nap! I kept myself busy working out, cleaning again, organizing! Either way, eventually it ended up being time to pick her up and boys oh boys, I was nervous and SO anxious! I had really considered picking her up early but was advised not to by my friends :). So I went to pick her up, and… you know what? She didn’t want to come home! So had had such a great time, I was so glad to hear that she had had such a great first day.

Now that a couple of weeks have passed (she’s only in two days a week), I think we’ve kind of got this down pat. She really enjoys being there, but she truly loves to come home with us too. I never know truly what to expect as there were a couple of times that she didn’t want to go, but as soon as she was through the doors, she was perfectly okay. I’ve noticed some pretty big improvements in certain areas as well. Since she’s been in preschool she’s totally finished daytime potty training, her speech has improved (not drastically, but.. it has still improved for sure! Which was the whole reason she got into daycare in the first place), and it’s really become a good routine for us now.

Thankfully, it’s only 2 days a week :),
So what do you guys do to occupy yourselves while your little ones are in preschool/daycare?
-Barb

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Cherish The Moments (Family Time)

Recently, there have been a string of premature deaths in my area. I can easily come up with 10 people in their 20s who have recently passed away, and this has been affecting me, even if it’s not really manifesting itself in grief. It’s just come to show me how valuable life itself really is.

Three years after becoming a mother for the first time, I can honestly say that I truly love the special family moments we’ve been working on. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with staying at home and making some homemade playdough, but I really enjoy the outings we’ve been having as a family lately. Aldric and I bring the kids out for a walk on a trail, or around in an area they’ve never been before. It gives the kids some time to explore as we let them run a few steps ahead of us. I know it sounds crazy, but these times together have really made me understand just how much my children have grown! Also, it has begun to put my mind at ease about having both children out in public, haha. It’s taught me that they listen way more than I ever thought they would, it’s shown me how much they love being outdoors, and it really allows me to see the vivid reactions on their faces when we explore a new area. Sometimes we keep it more low-key, and have a campfire before bed with the kiddos. The way the kids light up when we bring out the marshmallow roasting sticks is simply adorable.

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I want my children to have memories, not only day to day average activities. I want them to really have fun times that they can look back on, filled with love and devoted attention. Not only that, but it really brings Aldric and I closer together as well. It’s nice to actually see him actively parenting the children and interacting with them. I strongly believe that a strong bond between father and child is special. It’s one thing that I missed out on when I was younger, which I realize is probably why I find myself making sure that Aldric is a really actively-involved parent. It’s one thing for a parent to be around, it’s another thing entirely for a parent to be actively-involved (and no, I’m not referring to helicopter-parenting).

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I think it would be unrealistic for me to believe that every moment of every day is special. So much of it is filled with the mundane, cleaning, organizing, getting ready, working, and all that jazz. As soon as I made it clear to myself that this was what I wanted in our lives, and that this was important to me, I was able to find the time for it. I’ve changed my attitude to take one solid day a week, not just an hour once in a while, to put aside any major projects, I just do light cleaning, and we just “make a day of it”. We do whatever we would like, but we do it together. It’s really our own, personalized version of stopping to smell the roses.To cherish the time we have together, because I do realize that before I know it my children won’t be babies anymore. True family time is something that Aldric and I missed out on when we were growing up, and instead of bringing up another generation like we were, we decided to put an emphasis on memories, telling our children (and each other) “I love you”, and really solidifying the bond that holds us all together as a family.

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I totally understand that sometimes due to scheduling, or where you’re at in your own journey can make devoting an entire day somewhat tough. Up until the past few months, I would’ve thought that this was nearly impossible! So make sure you’re really cherishing the moments that you DO have together. Tell your children, and those around you that you LOVE them. Spend at least 20 minutes a day on your child’s level. Play with them, colour with them, converse with them. In time, if it’s truly important to you, you’ll find more and more time to spend with your loved ones.

I feel like I could go on all day about this topic, and I’m not going to. You know your own personal scheduling, I’m just hoping that maybe this post will sway you to spend a little more time as quality time… you never know how much you have left.

Until next time,
Barb

Organize Now! – Week 2

Okay, week 1 is finished! Yay! How did I do? Hmmm… overall, not bad, I’d say.

I answered most of the questions on the previous post, so now I’m going to quickly fill you all in on the rest: It advises getting at least 7 hours of sleep per night. There was only one night I didn’t accomplish this, which is a massive improvement in my life. I’m starting to feel better, at the end of my days I want to sleep. This is really a good thing. I used to go to bed at about 2, wake up at 7, feel dead in the afternoon, nap if at all possible, and then go to bed at 2. This schedule just wasn’t working out anymore. I really had to sit down and have a chat with the boy, because honestly he was a huge part of why my sleep schedule had been so skewed. I suck at going to bed without him there, and he stays up playing video games or whatever until that time. Now he gets off at 10, and we’re in bed by 11. I feel tired at nighttime, not during the day, and therefore my days are much more productive again… even with two children running around!

Although I don’t specifically write out a to-do list every morning, I usually do it the night before, and if there’s nothing specific, I have my regular daily to-do list made up for each day of the week. Most of them are pretty simple, but on the days when I know I’ll have a bit more time to accomplish a bit extra (like cleaning the bathroom or putting away the laundry) I stick it on to one of those days.

I have yet to get my exercise time scheduled in, but don’t worry! It’s coming, I promise.

I have begun doing more and more organizing, although it is a long, slow, tedious process. This week I organized the top of the bookcase in the back of my living room. I hadn’t touched it in about 6 years. I went through everything, and now there are only 4 small decorative vases, a lamp, an old picture of my property, and one extra vase that has some glass roses. The books underneath are also organized, although I want to do something a little more special to it.

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So, now on to Week 2:

There are some more general questions I’ll answer to the best of my ability for you all :). This week it’s all about priorities.
I most value my children. Out of the entire world, my children come first. I love them to death, even though every once in a while we don’t see eye to eye. I’m not going to lie and say I’m the perfect super-mom. But at the end of the day, I love my children with everything in me.
The things that are most important to me would have to be my children, my relationship, my health and my life in general. That is so odd to say, I know. But I can’t be specific as right now, it’s the whole thing. I’m trying to figure out what I want to become, how my life will work out, etc.
I’m here because this is where I chose to be. I’m unsure of where I’m going. I just recently began looking into getting back into school and completing a college or university degree geared towards counselling.
My purpose is to provide a better life for my children, and to become someone I am proud of. I want to really be proud of myself.
My top ten priorities for life are:
1. Getting my children ahead in their lives.
2. Figuring out exactly what I want to become, and the best route to take to get there.
3. Organizing my house.
4. Organizing my life.
5. Becoming a healthier person/family.
I guess I just don’t have 10 priorities right at the moment. My life is simple, and although shortly enough I feel like I will add to the list, that’s it for right this moment.

Tomorrow I’ll schedule down the important stuff in my life :).

Like I said, this is a simple week, so I’m pretty much already done! However, I do need to go to bed so that I can get those 7 hours of sleep ;).

Goodnight everyone!
Make sure you all keep being hot bosses in your lives!
xoxo
-Barb

Estelle’s room

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Currently cleaning up my oldest daughter’s room to make space for her “big girl” bed. Have to go through everything too since she’s turning three shortly and doesn’t have many toys for her age. Also, going to put a bit more organization into it so that she can help clean up from now on. Stay tuned and follow along for the updates on today’s project!